the-middle-eastern-feminist
the-middle-eastern-feminist:

One of the most destructive and enduring tools that the patriarchy has used against women is the idea that we are responsible for men sexually abusing us. That the shirt we were wearing was too low cut or the skirt we were wearing was too short. But our clothes has NOTHING to do with us being sexually abused. Women who are covered from head to toe are sexually assaulted. Young children are assaulted. People wearing sweatpants and an old hoodie experience sexual assault. Old people are sexually assaulted. Disabled people are assaulted. It’s not about our clothes, or who we like or where we were. It’s about us being women. Simply, gloriously, sensually and stunningly women. What the patriarchy is really saying is that “it’s your fault you were raped because you are a woman. You breathe and so therefore you must be sexualized, objectified, belittled and used for the pleasure of men. You are sinful, sensual, exotic; you arouse sinful thoughts and you must be punished by paying for those sexual desires and feelings.”But we need to destroy these ideas! We need to destroy the idea that our cloths led to our sexual abuse. We need to destroy the idea that what she was wearing was “asking for it”. We need to destroy the idea that if she had behaved better, not gone to that place, not been friends with that guy, not drank, taken drugs, gone to school or left the house in anyway then she wouldn’t have been sexually abused! Destroy it! Smash it! obliterate it! It is NEVER the victims fault. Period. Full stop. What does cause rape is the patriarchy differentiating, sexualizing, dividing and objectifying select groups for the privilege and pleasure of the elite few.

the-middle-eastern-feminist:

One of the most destructive and enduring tools that the patriarchy has used against women is the idea that we are responsible for men sexually abusing us. That the shirt we were wearing was too low cut or the skirt we were wearing was too short. But our clothes has NOTHING to do with us being sexually abused. Women who are covered from head to toe are sexually assaulted. Young children are assaulted. People wearing sweatpants and an old hoodie experience sexual assault. Old people are sexually assaulted. Disabled people are assaulted. It’s not about our clothes, or who we like or where we were. It’s about us being women. Simply, gloriously, sensually and stunningly women. What the patriarchy is really saying is that “it’s your fault you were raped because you are a woman. You breathe and so therefore you must be sexualized, objectified, belittled and used for the pleasure of men. You are sinful, sensual, exotic; you arouse sinful thoughts and you must be punished by paying for those sexual desires and feelings.”

But we need to destroy these ideas! We need to destroy the idea that our cloths led to our sexual abuse. We need to destroy the idea that what she was wearing was “asking for it”. We need to destroy the idea that if she had behaved better, not gone to that place, not been friends with that guy, not drank, taken drugs, gone to school or left the house in anyway then she wouldn’t have been sexually abused! Destroy it! Smash it! obliterate it! It is NEVER the victims fault. Period. Full stop. 

What does cause rape is the patriarchy differentiating, sexualizing, dividing and objectifying select groups for the privilege and pleasure of the elite few.